Warning: people lie about their sexual histories!
I mentioned in my last blog that a woman who has sex with a bisexual man is at increased risk of getting STIs, including HIV. But how does she know he’s bisexual?
Well, she could ask. That’s what the sex ed industry believes she should do: question potential “partners” about past sexual behavior and STIs. In an ideal world, that would work. But in this world, people lie.
Please raise your hands, anyone reading this, who knows a young person who is naïve, who trusts nearly everyone, and who thinks all people are essentially good and honest.
My hand is up, and I’m sure yours is too.
It’s nice to imagine, a la John Lennon, an ideal world. But our children need to live in this world, and understand difficult truths.
- People often lie about past sexual behaviors and HIV status.
- This occurs with higher frequency among men who have sex with men (MSM) and men who have sex with both men and women (MSM/W). One study indicates that between 33% and 75% of bisexual men don’t tell their female partners that they have sex with men.
- People often do not disclose their HIV status. One survey of HIV positive individuals found that 42% of those who were MSM or MSM/W reported having sex without disclosure of their status. Among those who identify as heterosexuals, the rate was lower, but still high.
If the sex ed industry truly wanted to educate young people about safeguarding their health, these statistics would be highlighted in every curriculum. Instead they tell teens, “Do what feels right to you.”
When will educators begin to tell our children tough truths about the real world? I’m not holding my breath, and you shouldn’t either.
1. Ciccarone, DH et al. “Sex Without Disclosure of Positive HIV Serostatus in a US Probability Sample of Persons Receiving Medical Care for HIV Infection.” American Journal of Public Health 93 (2003):949-954
2. Levin, EM et al. “Characteristics of Men Who Have Sex with Men and Women and Women Who Have Sex with Women and Men: Results from the 2003 Seattle Sex Survey.” Sexually Transmitted Diseases 36.9 (2009) 541-546